LOVELY REASONS OR REASONS TO LOVE
Love is not just a word, love is about attraction, its all about compromise. You’ll always meet someone who is different from you, that’s the law of attraction, unlike will always attract. But how do we really live with the differences, the social gap between two people in a relationship. What type of people you really get attracted to, how to choose your partner. What qualities do you really look for in a partner, what happens in the event that you discover that the differences are unbearable, will the lady assume the societal rule of being submissive, talking about the 21st century lady, I really don’t think so.
Over five failed relationships, I think am the perfect specimen for this topic. She must have been a virgin when I first met her. She was a bit older then me, but my height always cushioned that age gap. Don’t ever be with someone out of gratification, or sympathy for that sake. Love should always be about attraction. You did help her to get rid of that fear of love making, she was probably afraid of men, she couldn’t allow any man to get close to her private parts, let alone sex, just touching her inappropriately seemed offensive to her, that feeling was just scary to her. Then she meets you, she loves how you flirt with other ladies, that’s how ladies are, unfortunately, they seem to get attracted to ‘bad boys’. You seem very harmless to her, you suddenly notice how she takes notice of you, men can easily know when a lady finds them attractive. Then you will approach her, take her contacts. You take too long to call, so she makes the first move. You will meet in your apartment, share a drink, one thing leads to another, then……. You hit the cookie jar. Getting close too her V was one hell of a job, you feel her warm lips as you kiss her, you can feel her wetness from a distance(damn!! Did you just get aroused). Ok, enough of the details, lets get back to the main issue.
The feeling was awesome to her, she thinks that she’s madly in love with you. Hell no, what do you really know about each other, or she to you. Please never mistake sexual attraction to love, I understand that love is about attraction, but its not all about sex. How do you connect apart from sex? Sex is both physical and psychological, getting erect is the physical part of it, how long you last, is the psychological part of it, that’s my opinion.
Don’t be with someone out of gratification, what he did to you is awesome, but if you are not really attracted to him, don’t start a relation, be sex mate if you wish. With time your reason for being with him will fed. I remember she always complained about everything, its clear she wasn’t attracted to me. I really loved her, but love is a two sided sword. You will do whatever you can to make hare fall in love with you, you can even take her to heaven, just kidding, but if she’s not attracted to you, she’ll always find a reason to complain. I could feel how much she was struggling to be with me, that wasn’t necessary, there are a million people our there, you don’t have to be together, just because he broke your virginity. I tried as much as I could not to fall deeply in love with her, because I knew one day she was to find someone else, I really didn’t want to get heartbroken, but that was unavoidable. Am I still in denial? No!! I did accept what happened coz I expected it to happen one day. Was I hurt by the breakup? YES I was, coz I really love her, I’ve never been so much in love like I was with her, but I always knew one day she was to meet someone she likes and leave, that thought was always painful. Maybe I should have let her go in the first place, at times I feel responsible for the pain I went through.
The magnitude of the damage the heartbreak caused, Well!! She really did a good job. The bottom line is, if you don’t find anything attractive in your partner, it doesn’t have to be physical attraction, maybe emotional or in his/her character, then just let go of the relationship before it gets too serious. Don’t mess up with your emotions or they’ll end up messing with you.